Good news! You’re not lazy, you’re just…
- not inspired (possible reason 1),
- doing things you don’t like and aren’t passionate about (reason 2), or
- in need for rest (reason 3),
- self-care (reason 4) or
- play (reason 5).
- Or maybe you’re just very nicely relaxed and wanting to enjoy that some more (reason 6).
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The word “lazy” has for most people a negative connotation. And as with all negative things, why not have a shot at reframing it into something positive? So that we don’t have to beat ourselves up anymore. Let’s take a look at some common situations in which you might call yourself lazy, while you can also find a friendlier and more positive perspective.
1. You’re not inspired
Do you know these morning moments where you keep lying around in your bed, not because you’re enjoying it, or because you’re still sleepy, but because you’re just not motivated to get out of bed? You could call that laziness, but if you don’t want to think bad of yourself, it’s better to call it a lack of inspiration.
You don’t have to blame yourself for not being inspired.
You’re just not inspired. And of course inspirations makes up happy in life, so now you have genuine self-loving motivation to see if you can connect somehow with new inspiration. Ask yourself if there’s anything you would feel enthusiastic about.
Sometimes there are so many things we have to do, need to do, and things people expect us to do, that all our days get filled up with so many of those things, that we’re not even used to anymore to letting our hearts speak. But the heart does always has desires inside. Maybe you want to learn to play an instrument, or go for a walk in the forest, or see a friend you haven’t seen for a long time. Laziness might be just a signal that you can connect more to your heart’s desires so that you can be led by inspiration.
2. You’re doing things you don’t like
People usually also call themselves lazy when they think they should do certain things, but they’re not doing it because “they are too lazy”. Maybe you keep procrastinating with your work, studies, household chores or you can’t get an exercise routine down. Well, consider this:
Maybe that work or study is just not your passion? If you’re doing work you don’t like, of course you’re going to need to kick your own ass to do it. But why not have a try at finding work you do like? So that passion will guide you out of your bed in the morning, instead of you trying to beat yourself up over the fact that you shouldn’t be lazy and need to do that work?
Same for exercise routines. Don’t push yourself to exercise if you really don’t like it, in stead, find a sport or way of exercising you actually enjoy. Try out some new things. Maybe for you it’s not the gym, but it’s dancing and yoga and that makes you feel happy and alive.
So many people try to accept that in life “not everything can be fun”. But do we really ever have to settle for less than liking everything we do?
Often there are more options than we initially think of. So take your time to reflect on how you’re organizing your life, and find ways to organize things in more joyful ways.
3. You need rest
And sometimes we call ourselves lazy when there are things we do like, like a hobby, but we’re not doing them because we don’t have enough energy to do it. Maybe you’ve been so busy already and now you really need time to rest.
Be aware that in this society where work and productivity are closely related to status and self-worth, we might underestimate the amount of rest we need.
The lamest excuse to not go to a party is ‘I want some resting time’, the best excuse is ‘I have to work’. Ever noticed that? But maybe you just really do need some resting time, and the self-loving thing to do here is not to tell yourself that you’re lazy and try to make yourself do the things you’re too tired to do, but to actually take rest. So honour your need for rest. It’s perfectly normal that we all need resting time in our lives.
4. You need self-care
You might also not have energy to do things due to a need for self-care. That can be physical as well as psychological. If you have been having an unhealthy lifestyle, or you’re physically unwell for some other reason, of course you’re going to have less energy to do things. If you’re feeling depressed, stressed or psychologically unwell for some other reason, of course you’re going to have less energy to do things. Honour your need for self-care. Go find out how you can make your lifestyle more healthy, or what you need to do to feel okay. Don’t expect yourself to get things done when you’re actually in need for self-care.
You don’t have to be diagnosed with some grave physical or mental disease before you deserve your own loving attention and care.
You don’t have to keep going until you can’t anymore. Whenever you’re body is not feeling great, or your head is clouded by some negative thoughts or worries, you can use some self-care. Don’t wait until you’re in desperate need for care, start caring for yourself much sooner. As soon as you can use some self-care, take time for that.
Listen to your own needs. Maybe you need some days in a clean and quiet nature environment, a massage, some health supplements, a meeting with a mental coach, meditation time, or a bit or reading in a self-help book of your choice. I often need an asana yoga class for my physical body. And for my mental health, I often need some time to reflect on what’s bothering me, what positive perspective I can also find on that problem, and some affirmations to help me anchor that new positive perspective. Again: listen to your own needs.
5. You need time to play
It’s great to live goal-oriented, and get things done, but if you’re doing that all the time, you might notice that joy starts to drain out of your days, even if you’re working on a passion project. Playfulness is doing without any further goal in mind than having fun, and following your curiosity and inspiration. As children we all naturally played, as adults we get a lot more serious. But we’re still really helped by giving ourselves time to have fun, follow our curiosity and just play around. We’re helped by that because it makes our hearts happy.
Time to play is time to recharge our hearts.
Play-time can look like you making a little work of art by using things that you would normally put in your garbage bin. Or maybe it’s sending funny picture to friends. Or cooking with an ingredient you never cooked with before. It can be rearranging your living room, building a sand castle on the beach, climbing a tree, or sticking a sweet note under the windscreen wiper of stranger’s parked car.
In whatever way you like to play, allow yourself to recharge your heart.
6. Maybe you just want to enjoy relaxation
You know that moment where you’re all cozily curled up on the sofa and you just don’t want to get up for anything? Or you’re lying on your back in the sunshine? Or you’re really enjoying lying in your bed?
Don’t make yourself wrong for enjoying relaxation. Just enjoy the enjoyable!
So what to do “when lazy”?
Whenever you have a moment where you think of yourself as lazy, see if any of the above reasons are what’s actually going on. Don’t make yourself wrong for anything (ever). Instead, find out what you need, or what your heart wants. And led that guide you, whether it will bring you to do more or less.